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This is an interesting way of seeing how a parents behavior can have a dramatic effect on a child (thanks to my sister for this). In general, it's correct. Even though it's written as though for a male child, it's true for girls as well.
 
Children Learn What They Live
 
If a child lives with criticism,
   He learns to condemn.
 
If a child lives with hostility,
   He learns to fight.
 
             If a child lives with ridicule,             
   He learns to be shy.
 
If a child lives with shame,
   He learns to feel guilty.
 
If a child lives with tolerance,
   He learns to be patient.
 
If a child lives with encouragement,
   He learns to have confidence. 
 
If a child lives with praise,
   He learns to appreciate (himself and others).
 
If a child lives with fairness,
   He learns justice.
 
If a child lives with security, (this is more about the child feeling the parents love in their heart than it is about money)
   He learns to have faith.
 
If a child lives with approval,
   He learns to like himself.
 
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
   He learns to find love in the world.
 
By: Dorothy Law Nolte
 
I  would add that a child that grows up feeling their parent's love in their hearts will naturally have the ability to love themselves as an adult. Too often children grow up not feeling their parent's love in their hearts. This is the root of self-hatred. In the absense of love, there is only fear. It is a question of how much the child feels the parents love.